The last 10 weeks have been somewhat of an emotional rollercoaster for Rach and I; 10 weeks ago we found out she was pregnant. Last week we found out she’d miscarried. We’re both emotionally strong folks and big on communication, so have dealt with it very well – that’s not really the point of this post.
What I have realised since we started trying to conceive is the stats of NOT getting pregnant to full term. In my nativity I thought you waited until the appropriate time, put part A in part B, shook vigorously for 2-3 mins 🙂 bake for 9 months at 101’F or thereabouts and then you had a baby.
Well let me tell you it got more scientific than that. Here’s what I read is “supposed” to happen.
- If you want a girl – Don’t do it doggy and have sex prior to ovulation (so you’ll need to track your temp ladies!)
- If you want a boy – On all fours and howl at the moon – also wait until ovulation.
- In either case, after “arriving”, the woman should elevate her legs so things flow in the right direction (unless he shoots like a power hose, in which case, don’t gargle I suppose).
- A woman’s chance of getting pregnant is 10% during the first month, 25% during the first 3 months, 60% 6 months and 90% first year (that may not be totally accurate, and does not consider other factors such as age, smoking, drinking, etc).
Equally even if the woman is pregnant…
- Almost 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, with the majority occurring during the first 12 weeks.
- 75% chance of miscarriage in weeks 1-2 of pregnancy, when you do not know you are pregnant.
- 10% chance of miscarriage in weeks 3-6 and this number drops to 5% during weeks 6-12.
- During the second trimester the chance of miscarriage drops again to 3%. After you’ve reached 20 weeks gestation, it is no longer considered a miscarriage.
For repeat miscarriage the statistic are as follows:
- If you have had a miscarriage during your first pregnancy, your chances of another miscarriage are 10-13%.
- If you have had one or more live births and one miscarriage your chance of another miscarriage is around 10%.
- There is a 40% chance of a repeat miscarriage if you have had two pregnancies and two miscarriages.
- The chance of multiple miscarriages is lower, at around 13%, if you have had one or more live births.
- If you have had three pregnancies and three miscarriages there is a 60% chance you will miscarry again. If you have had four miscarriages with no live births your chances of a healthy pregnancy drop to 0-5%.
(source : AmazingPregnancy.com)
That’s pretty amazing stuff eh? What the study didn’t say is that those folks who do drunken one-night stands and don’t use contraception throw all that out the window 🙂